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Group: Huggy Healing Team
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| Brave decision to move on. I wish you the best. For me it took a move to another city to really sever the connection. I hope you find some way of keeping this guy at a distance.
And don't beat yourself up that you are with him now. What happened happened (and theseguys are clever), what matters is your future and your happiness and I wish you all the best with that.
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It's that classic dilemma between the head and the heart... |
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Group: Forum Members
Last Login: 19/04/2008 02:54
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| | Don't beat yourself up, it is so easy to slip back into old relationships especailly when your feeling depressed. You had the strength to leave him once, and you can do it again. Each time it will get easier. New York can be a lonely place, but on the bright side there are so many people. One of my favorite things to do is go to central park and visit the turtle pond. It kind of takes you out of the dreary buildings that seem to block the sun. Summer is approaching and it is a perfect time to start fresh and new. If you dont feel happy with this man now, chances are you never will. Break ups are so difficult (i just got over a stage of being suicidaly depressed because of a break that happened 8 months ago!) Once you leave, dont look back. Dont brood about what you could be doing with him, instead focus on yourself. try to fully take in life, all the colors, sounds, sights, tastes and new york city wil definitly keep you occupied in this sense. Dont focus on your thoughts, you are not your thoughts. I hope this helps, I wish you the best of luck and send you calmness, peace, and strength. keep me posted.
Let go of ego. |
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| | Whoops! The others are right you know....there's no point hurting yourself or disrespecting yourself just because he did. Just makes you even more vulnerable to him. Rather, be gentle with yourself. Try to reach inside to understand what -you- need. I mean....this is what I have gleaned from your posts so far....you need company and warmth, and the opportunity to lavish your warmth on others; you need things that make you smile, and feel eased inside; you need to be able to regard yourself with a certain sense of pride. So....next step...what little things might help to achieve these? Getting through a day not giving yourself a hard time for going back? A short break back home if possible? Identifying things that interest you and pursuing them? Think about you. Not him. Not you-and-him. You. The autonomous unique individual that is you. Comes a bit strangely at first when you have been in a partnership. It's as though we lose the hang of it. But we can remember if we let ourselves. Good luck. Thinking of you. Loadsa love
There are thing you notice in this life and things you don't. When you notice and acknowledge the important things in life you enrich it. When you notice and acknowledge the unimportant things in this life it proves you pay attention. When you do neither what are you????
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Group: Forum Members
Last Login: 30/04/2008 11:26
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| | Good Morning Keep strong remember you have done the hardest thing and that is saing he is wrong for you , have you thought about taking an evening class it will help keep your mind off him and also you will meet a whole new set of friends that have nothing to do with him Remember say out loud each day why you decided to do this in the first place Paula
Love and Light Paula |
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Group: Forum Members
Last Login: 10/05/2008 21:06
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| Good evening friends. I want to thank you all so much for your encouraging words and support. When I'm in doubt and having a moment, I always re-read all your replies. It has been so helpful. I doing better. And most important, I'm still marching on. I do have some moments when I want to hear him out, especially when he starts with the flowers. But I just remind myself what I truly want from a partner, how much one year sorrow out weights the one year of good times, and more important I repeat all of your great and strong advice. I've been studying my cards, playing guitar, and forcing myself to go out. Hopefully soon I will be the healed person I day dream about. Thank you again for your kindness. I'm so grateful for Angel Paths.
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Divine Being
Group: Huggy Healing Team
Last Login: Today @ 01:28
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| It's so, so hard when someone ignores your wishes for a clean break and pulls this kind of thing on you, especially when you have feelings for them. But like you said, in the long run it's not worth it and you're protecting yourself from a lot of pain this way.
Hoping this man gives up his emotional blackmail and leaves you alone.
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| The mind and heart can be terrible things can't they? I hate that thing where you suddenly start getting all sympathetic, moving into fantasy land and imagining that actually "with the love of a good woman" he can be everything you thought he could. I like that phrase "you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find the handsome prince"  Frogs are slimy and they look funny. Loadsa love
There are thing you notice in this life and things you don't. When you notice and acknowledge the important things in life you enrich it. When you notice and acknowledge the unimportant things in this life it proves you pay attention. When you do neither what are you????
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